Maureen has a "thing" about keeping stuff safe That can mean she hides my wallet if she sees it lying around. she will do the same with keys - front door,back,neighbours spare keys,car keys. It can be very frustrating when you want to go out , to not be able to find the keys. And I cant ask her because I know she will deny hiding them. I thought she had stopped taking a shower and washing her hair but the penny finally dropped one morning whenI I asked if she wanted me to run her shower. She as forgotten how to use the shower controls This morning she wanted to wash the dogs after their walk and she told me the sink wouldnt hold water. Thats because she was placing the filter trivet over the sink hole instead of the sink plug. Seeing me as a visitor and askning me when her husband will be home ,is a regular daily event. I walk the dogs every morning but I get abuse when I come home "Where the bloody hell have you been all this time. I dont want anyone walking my dogs" She would never have used this kind of language to me,and she sees me walk out with the dogs every morning So many small things that add up to an unhappy life for us both. We went shopping yesterday. I gave her the shopping list and said "I have to go to another shop for one thing. So you carry on and start getting the stuff on the list. i will catch you up." When I rejoined her she was just waiting with no shopping. She went to use the car yesterday but she could open the garage door because she had forgotten the remote control. And when she got in the car she tried to start it using old keys. ( she had hiddenthese keys and we had to have them replaced and recoded) Its hard to feel affection or be cheerful when you know that sometime in the day you will be verbally abused and told to "bugger off" or that you cant sleep in your own bed or (as ttoday) "you sit on your arse boing bugger all all day and you wont even come to the shops with me to get dog food you are a nasty horrible man"