Ive said it before that if you post it sounds as if you are complaining when you are NOT the one with the problem
But Ive also said I post to plot the profress of the disease. And if the disease never gets better, then its hard not to be posting negative stuff. The experts will give you Brochures with heart warming tales of how carers stimulate , or keep their loved one cheerful and positive and feeling loved. And there are nice pictures of silver haired smiling ladies and their warm cuddly carer
Well my loved one has dyed hair and Im bald.
The most recent examples (again just as a way of reminding myself where we are today)
This morning I took our two miniature schnauzers for their morning walk. Ive done this every day for the last 14 years except when I was away on holiday or in hospital. We got caught in the rain without the dogs rain coats.And although we stood under trees,we still came home wet.
I was told I had taken the dogs out without permission and My wife always took the dogs out (she says) and last week I took her car to the dog walk without her permission. The dogs got lots of sympathy for being wet. I got none.
Last evening my wife sat and scoffed chocolates she had been given for her birthday ( thats fine they are her chocolates) but I said "steady on, youre fair scoffing away". I had one chocolate
This morning "some pig has eaten most of the chocolates from this box"
Last week the Community nurse came. She is supposed to come once a year to check Maureens blood pressure and weight and see how she is generally. As a result of her visit,it was suggested that Maureen might benefit from anti depressant tablets. I put them out each night for the last three nights and my wife has refused to take them on the grounds that she takes enough tablets already and a tablet that small cant possibly do any good and in any event she is not depresssed so they are a waste of time.
In the last two weeks she has gone crying to our neighbours about the horrible nasty man who is living in the house (me) and she wants him out now.
She lost all the house keys and in the course of the general search,she retrieved them one by one.
She told me she wasnt going to take any more medication and she had thrown out all her tablets because therre was nothing wrong with her. In fact she had hidden the tablets.
She takes a shower about once a week now telling me that lots of people dont have showers and that she has a "good wash every morning"
It gets me down. After an arguement I dont want to talk to her ,but after a while she has forgotten the arguement although she knows from my silence that something is wrong.
The Community Nurse had suggested (again) that Maureen might like to go to a Day Centre ( to meet other people and socialise). Maureen again refused saying she was perfectly happy at home with me and the dogs.
Every day she asks if I know when "Steve" went out or where he has gone or what time he will be home and sometimes she sets an extra place at table for him. "Steve" is her husband . I am apparently a guest or a friend. This is one of the reasons she gets upset if I do something round the house like painting or cleaning,because you wouldnt ask someone to stay in your house and then let them paint or clean the place
When she is ironing she will separate out "Steves" shirts and socks or pantsfrom mine
She has stopped cooking.
